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How To Stop Yelling

August 5, 2017 by Alice 13 Comments

How To Stop Yelling At Your Kids

How to stop yelling at our kids #kids #parenttips #parenthacks #yelling #children #childhood #parenthood #motherhoodIt’s heartbreaking isn’t it?

Watching yourself become the monster mother who yells.

And it doesn’t matter how great the “provocation“.

Seeing your own kids, cowering in front of you as you yell at them. As you unleash all that pent up anger and head banging frustration. There is no other word. It is heartbreaking.

But however much we hate ourselves when we’re yelling, we keep doing it.

How to stop yelling at our kids and losing our temper when they’re not listening or having tantrums and we’re in the grip of an angry mom moment. Plus positive parenting tips and techniques that help prevent the hurt and long term effects of yelling on our relationships with our children. #yelling #anger #tantrums #parenting #calmdown #positiveparenting

And however small and unloveable we make not only our kids but also ourselves feel, we still yell. So what can we do? Is there actually any way as a mother to stop yelling at our kids?

Well I certainly don’t think there are any magic silver bullets that will instantly stop us yelling. There never really are in this parenting malarky are there? Whatever the “gurus” say.

However there are simple things that help.

The most powerful for my family have been learning to slow down and gently weaving calm into our every day but I have also found these simple tips help.

Do check them out and let me know what you think and for more simple tips check out my other simple parenting posts and follow me on Pinterest.

How To Stop Yelling At Your Kids

1. Spotting The Triggers That Make Us Yell

As with so much of our self-destructive behaviour, the first steps to change are acknowledging what we’re doing – and how rubbish it makes us feel – and then spotting the triggers for the behaviour.

I found this heartfelt post from Corinne at The Pragmatic Parent very powerful.

How to stop yelling at our kids and losing our temper when they’re not listening or having tantrums and we’re in the grip of an angry mom moment. Plus positive parenting tips and techniques that help prevent the hurt and long term effects of yelling on our relationships with our children. #yelling #anger #tantrums #parenting #calmdown #positiveparenting

She describes just how agonisingly miserable yelling at her kids made her feel, and how she’s learned to spot the triggers that push her over the edge.

PLUS how she finds those little pockets of space so the triggers don’t push her over the edge.

2. How To Turn Down The Triggers

But even when we know the triggers that make us yell.

Even when we know what turns into that hateful yelling mum monster.

It can be hard in the instant to find that space.

So I found this really simple instant tip from Lauren really helpful there and then in the moment when I’m actually about to start yelling.

How to stop yelling at our kids and losing our temper when they’re not listening or having tantrums and we’re in the grip of an angry mom moment. Plus positive parenting tips and techniques that help prevent the hurt and long term effects of yelling on our relationships with our children. #yelling #anger #tantrums #parenting #calmdown #positiveparenting

3. Ditching The Yelling Habit

If you feel the yelling is really engrained, Amanda – a family counsellor – at Dirt & Boogers has a post on how you can really break out of those habits and stop yelling in 21 days.

How to stop yelling at our kids and losing our temper when they’re not listening or having tantrums and we’re in the grip of an angry mom moment. Plus positive parenting tips and techniques that help prevent the hurt and long term effects of yelling on our relationships with our children. #yelling #anger #tantrums #parenting #calmdown #positiveparenting

4. Encouraging Our Kids To Listen

I don’t know about you but for me it’s that deep down feeling of being out of control which is definitely my biggest overall trigger for yelling.

The house being a complete tip. Work not done. Supposedly simple family stuff screwed up.

And I’m having to learn to accept there are certain things I can’t control.

But one of the things we can influence – if not control – is how much our kids listen because there are simple, simple things we can do that help our kids listen more without us yelling at them.

They’re the things we all know but in the hurley burley of our over busy lives forget to do.

Whitney at Beauty In The Mess has some quick reminders.

How to stop yelling at our kids and losing our temper when they’re not listening or having tantrums and we’re in the grip of an angry mom moment. Plus positive parenting tips and techniques that help prevent the hurt and long term effects of yelling on our relationships with our children. #yelling #anger #tantrums #parenting #calmdown #positiveparenting

6. The Power Of The Positive

And I love this post from Ali at Mum In A Nutshell on the difference our own day to day behaviour makes to how much our kids “play up” and “provoke” yelling.

It’s another great reminder of the power of the positive.

7. When Our Kids Are Downright Rude

But … being brutally honest here.

There are times when our precious kids are absolutely horrible.

You know those moments – when your kids are intentionally – trying-to-provoke-you – rude.

And at those moments, I can hear myself justifying my own yelling. I mean, how dare you say that?

But whatever the provocation, the yelling doesn’t really help.

And it becomes so easy to get into a cycle of rudeness and yelling, and more rudeness and yelling.

I found this piece from Nicole at Imperfect Families really helpful in working through this.

How to stop yelling at our kids

She layouts out very clearly, why however – rightfully – angry we feel, we can’t help our kids learn not to be rude by yelling. And what we can do instead to respond to what feels so disrespectful.

So there you go.

Some thoughts and practical tips on how we really can stop yelling at our kids. I do hope they help. Let me know what works.

If these tips rang true you may also like these:

  • Slower Happier Parenting
  • 30 Lovely Ways To Calm Down
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  • Help Kids With Transitions
  • Help Kids Who Hate School
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